Monday, November 13, 2006

Two Stories for this children's day

Story 1:
Vidya was a plump little girl studying is 7th std when I left kerala for my first job. She was just like my little sister.
I taught her playing chess and cycling. Then when I started giving tutions she was my first student. She always confused between Lasagu(HCF) and Usaga(LCM).For teaching her I learned the malayalam terms for LCM ,HCF and all. And as she landed in her teens our relationship ended with a distant smile and a customary hi, how are you?

Yesterday she hung herself on a fan because she couldn’t cope with pressure of studying in English medium after studying for last ten years in Malayalam medium. She always complained that she couldn't understand anything that is being taught at school, but everybody felt that she is making mountain out of a mole. Nobody seemed to care a damn. A girl with distinction in tenth standard getting low marks was unpalatable for her parents. She was scolded like "u r just fat and lazy”. Whom shall we marry you off..you are a fat ugly girl moreover you are getting low grades.It took a heavy toll on her self esteem.And she just chose to walk off from all tribulations.

Whom shall we blame?
Me (for not asking her to learn the technical terms in English and vociferously instilling the idea not to learn by rote)
Her parents (for not understanding her)
Her school (for being an institution to penalise her ignorance in english rather an institution to test her knowledge)
Globalization (Her family become rich and they could afford to send her to a covent school)
This world (for overlooking a magnificent little mind)
She only (for being a coward in this brave world)

Story 2:
Vidya is a 12-year-old girl who is suffering from AIDS. She got this gift from her mother at the time of birth. I remembered her story when I heard my neighbor’s death.
She got admission to 1st standard at the age of 10 after long legal battle. Nobody sat with her in the same bench. She has to cook food for her brother and her sick grandmother. She can’t dream of a normal life, still she has that urge to push hard. May be she don’t know what is in store for her future. But sometimes ignorance is bliss and she is not complaining. She is really happy when those 7-year-old classmates let her to play with them. Her smile bring a lump in my throat. But how cruel our so-called literate civilized society is. Not everyone in this world has the courage of this little girl. We should be proud of her. For me she is as powerful as Indra Nooyi or Angelena Merckel.Because being powerful means being capable of influencing many lives. May be Vidya is not influencing anybody’s life. But she is influencing her own life in a big positive manner.With the institutional frameworks that bound Mrs.Nooyi and Mrs.Merckel,they even cant dream of living such a bold life.I salute this bold young girl today.
Story courtesy:Penmalayalam in Kairali TV.

I really wish a bit of that innocence a bit of that courage a bit of that ignorance were left in my neighbor’s case.


The 1st story is a fact+fiction mix and 2nd one is fact and fact only.

39 Comments:

Blogger clash said...

Literate in what sense? Just for the sake of reading direction boards and scribbling own name. Literacy is the biggest fallacy, that helped kerela riding along for the last few years. When, you analayze, our society; it stinks.

2:50 AM  
Blogger Sachin R K said...

Touching post.

9:34 AM  
Blogger -B- said...

Mone, nee hridayathil ninnu vaakkukal nerittu eduthu ivide vekkukayanalle...

1:10 AM  
Blogger Rose said...

"_____________"

3:22 AM  
Blogger Rose said...

Fact or fiction.. the story did convey a strong message..

..Me

10:16 PM  
Blogger Reshmi said...

Thatz very stronly stated..
Really we are yet to learn/educate ourselves in the true sense of the word..

1:59 AM  
Blogger Flyaway Mind said...

that was really heart wrenching!!!!

4:25 AM  
Blogger b v n said...

Touching post dude ! loved your sensitivity...amzaing !

btw, I cud do without the last line :)

10:45 AM  
Blogger Alex said...

I dont know who should be blamed. everybody or nobody.

But each one of the persons listed had a part to play; and if each one did not do what they did, then probably things would not have turned out to be so bleak.

I do not know. :(

http://alexmthomas.wordpress.com

9:50 PM  
Blogger neermathalam said...

@ammu...
I don knw whether i did a gud job or not...it just pained me too much...because..when someone who is close to us..walks away..They wud hav felt that lonely...and we cud not be lend our shoulder to them..at thr right time..tats it..
@clash...
True clash u said it it stinks...
me too fed up with that..but when I want to make statement,alas !! i also turn to be the victim of cliche...
@sachin..
umm...it did hurt me...
@chiyechi...
I just cant stand certain things..And I am able to gulp it down..she might have been a loner...poor kid..!!
and regarding the question..I dunno..But i write only when i m disturbed..
@rose...
First comment kandappo vicharichu kaliyakkiyathanoo ennu...;) ethinokke enthu parayan ennu...
but yes..some time..silence is better
@reshmi..
We need to learn or we need to unlearn..We are so formal..we need to open up..We bottle a lot of emotions inside...but do we ?
@flyaway..
tnks for visiting..u coming first...2nd story of that bold vidya is for u..positive vibes...
;)
@bvn..
I cud hav done..it...as u said..but rarely i edit my post...except for any factual blunders..Sensitivity is a very relative term..though homicide in gujarat evoed disgust..this one i felt like happening under my nose.
it shakes u..
@alex..
U r 101% true..i don knw...many things go over our head..

4:38 AM  
Blogger Ash said...

Touching and poignant.

2:46 AM  
Blogger How do we know said...

Such a different perspective on Children's Day Neermathalam! Really loved ur post!

12:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Those stories really worth to give a thought.
I had heard about the second one on TV. But the world is like that I suppose. People talk and preach but when it comes to action, I wonder how many really do something.
Nice post!

10:15 PM  
Blogger pophabhi said...

You know something Neermathalam?
That might have been the best one that you posted!

You got me caught unaware. That was just upsetting. So is life, rite?

9:26 AM  
Blogger Dotm said...

Both heartbreaking stories. I thank God that my youngest daughter called me to the phone to listen to what a friend was saying to her when they were teenagers. The young lad couldn`t handle his home life any longer. I ended up calling the Sheriff Department and asked them to check at his parents home where he lived. The next day I called to apologise to his mother for sending the police to her home at 3 in the morning. She thanked us for saving her son`s life and said she never knew he felt as he did. He had a step father who was always comparing him to his step brother and asking why he wasn`t more like his own son. This went on behind the mothers back while she was off working. The Mother later broke up with the step father saying noone was ever going to treat her son that badly. That young lad graduated from High School, entered the military, later got married and last we heard they had a child and were happy. Wish all such stories ended as well.
I heard there was a lack of medical drugs for treating kids with aids in some Countries. Such a terrible disease for anyone, but even more so for those innoscent little ones.

5:57 PM  
Blogger the sunflower said...

Touching tales...

3:31 AM  
Blogger Tejas said...

Very well written. Add to this the other innumerable problems that girl child faces in India, and we really have a huge challenge on our hands.

8:41 AM  
Blogger starry said...

Two touching stories. one of courage and one not being able to be couragious.really sad.I think the first child should have been talked to and her self esteem built up. sometimes in life we dont know where it takes us.two children with two different outcomes.makes us think.

10:17 AM  
Blogger Praveen said...

I can't blame the first child...Its bcoz of the pressure of situations/circumstances she has been put by the society surrounding her...

Anyway hats off to the determination of second child..realy inspires me...

6:22 PM  
Blogger Praveen said...

I has same opinion of Alex in this matter..

6:27 PM  
Blogger Priyankari said...

Story 1: A really touching story!
Donno whom to blame (may be coz there are too many) but the major share to the blame goes for not making English (that is necessary in this age of globalisation) a compulsory subject from nursery itself. The educational system itself is faulty and the small kids have to suffer the consequences.

Story 2: Another touching story. My long salute to the brave girl. It's really a lesson to learn.

Thanks for visiting my blog. Hope to see you there again:)

11:56 PM  
Blogger Ash said...

Merry Christmas to you!

6:38 PM  
Blogger b v n said...

Kada poottiyo ?

10:09 PM  
Blogger മിടുക്കന്‍ said...

You Said It..!

10:38 PM  
Blogger alakananda said...

Touching post. Thank you for visiting my blog and your comment.

12:05 PM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

Isnt it so sad that we talk so much of compassion, but when the need arises , we dont think abt it ?

12:39 AM  
Blogger Dotm said...

Hi Neer.... I noticed you haven`t been writing in your blog , but still I wanted to wish you a very Happy New Year. Hope you are still receiving any posts left on your blog.
Thanks for the New Year wishes left on my blog.

11:49 AM  
Blogger neermathalam said...

@ash
it was touching..
@ammu..
:)u knw me...
@aqua..
come up with the tag soon..:)
@hw do we knw..
Thank u..the incidents..jus did rock me.for a while..
@preeta
That program was really touching.
@dotm
:(..when development happens it happens in islands..mainland is mostly left off..
@writer..
may be i was too charged..
@sunflower
first thing first how are yu
@tejas
thanks for the compli...but yes..
the problems are hydra shaped..
and in the end it boils down to helplessness..which the optimist in me resist to accept.
@starry
u hit the bulls eye..i also dont have a solution.:(
@praveen
amen..me too..
@priyankari
offc ourse dudette...u r welcome to my lighthouse.
@ash..
happy new year to u
@bvn
engine pooya thamasiyate pootum..
ezhutan ulla sambhavangal onnum njan kanan sramikkunilla..athavum karanam..:)...chilar athine laziness ennum parayum...;)
@chetto..
umm..dank u
@alakananda..
tat post was a 1 1/2 post dudette..
@deepz..
be a gud gal take up my tag
@dotm..
dank u..valiyammomme...

12:54 AM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

what tag ?

9:51 PM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

arrey .. i have done the below mentioned tag ................

9:52 PM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

?

12:00 AM  
Blogger neermathalam said...

@deepa

gal u hav not done the tag...yet..
and what is below mentioned..i didnt get at all..
me confused..with the last question mark..

12:17 AM  
Blogger ~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

no re .. what i meant was i have already done the tag that u've asked me to do !

2:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi ..

Your "Altar of trust" is a tyrue piece of literature .. really I mean it!!

Ok, there is another article hope you'll like it READ IT NOW:
http://simplydev.blogspot.com/2006/01/move-on-yes-move-on.html


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Roy

10:43 PM  
Blogger the sunflower said...

this place is asking for an updation!

10:42 PM  
Blogger Jina said...

incredibly touching...almost brought tears into my eyes..

2:38 AM  
Blogger neermathalam said...

@roy
i m flattered...i dunno if tats literature or not..but it is frm my heart.
@sun...
i have 2 updates..common dudette...lov to read u tooo...
@ursjina...
welcome...to my lighthouse...
i also think the name of this blog is kinda weird..happylighthouse..amd mostly the posts are..melancholic...

9:40 PM  
Blogger neermathalam said...

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9:40 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

:)

Same feelin u had... i am lost for words! And u know how rare dat happens! :)

1:33 PM  

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